I thought I would share my experience and the knowledge, I gained from my Dark Night of the Soul. To get more information out there so you know you are not alone and you can get through this! In my opinion I think the best thing you can do is arm yourself with more knowledge and others experiences, to help you find what works for you and get you through this transformational time of your life.
In my opinion the Dark Night of the Soul is about the "part of you the ego" dissolving because it doesn't truely align with your soul and your true life's purpose.
You are here to fullfil your Soul contract per say, the one you forgot when you arrived here on earth but are destined to remember. You are here to remember who you are and remember why you have been put on this earth. What is that unique part of you that God has given you, that calls to you. Through your unfiltered desires, passions and good feelings. Those feelings and desires are specific to you and are your purpose, because your purpose is to be you and only YOU. That is how you re-imerse from the DNS experience is by clearing out all that isn't serving you and finding your true self, so you can live authentically.
Im not by any means saying this is easy and that you don't have to put some work in! It is inner work tho, delving into you and into your subconscious. To all the programming and beliefs that are not yours and don't align with you. Internally you know they are not yours, as the don't feel right and show up as anxiety and pains.
I'm not denying, It can get get dark but I found comfort in the knowledge that you need to know the game of life, souls and reincarnation. KnowIng the game of souls and life on Earth. You are here on a contract with the purpose to evolve. To put it simply, life is like a video game everyone is at different soul levels. Even when times feel dark you've got this and know whatever your feeling. Don’t leave (you know exactly what I mean) as you will come back, reincarnate and repeat.
Even if you reflect on your life and don’t define what you have achieved as a spirit/soul to be “big” it is still progress labelling it “good or bad” doesn’t change its meaning of experience. I dunno about you but I don’t want to repeat some of the feelings I’ve had so that’s what helped me to keep going, the only path is through.
After reading other peoples DNS experiences and how theirs lasted months and up to a year. I was like ohhh hell nah haha I ain’t sitting in this for a year! My personality type at its core is designed for problem solving, it’s want I love and enjoy to do. If there’s a better way of doing something, more efficiently but still with quality results I will find it. I’m a bit relentless like that and I don’t take no for and answer much haha
In my opinion, experience and from what I've read sometimes the reason people feel stuck is because they aren't recognising their feelings and blocks, so they get stuck in a "loop". This means to say, don't avoid or escape your feelings but surrender to them, to the situation and to what ever is trying to surface for you. Then it can be released and removed, so you can move on from it. Also in saying that there is no rush to healing, go at your own pace and take the time you need to process things and rest your mind, body and soul.
Things that helped me through my Dark Night of the Soul:
-Concentration Meditations - Balance App- To regain & retrain the minds running thoughts
- TM Meditation - I did a Transcendental Meditation course they can only be done in person. Honestly a game changer for deep states of relaxation, getting into your subconscious mind, stress and thoughts. As well as meeting other like minded people and teachers who are very much on a self development journey just like you.
- Walking and running with music to stir up feelings and release them
- Researching feelings, triggers and psychology as the internet has so much knowledge. I find arming your self with knowledge about what you are going through can be comforting and to know you are not alone.
- Journalling your thoughts and feelings - Reading and Writing
- Energy Healing- Recognising, Connecting, Feeling and Releasing old stuck emotions in the body
- Find God, if you haven’t already. Whatever faith that is for you, churches and church communities are very sacred and spiritual places. They hold good vibrations and music that can be cleansing to the soul. A lot of churches have great communities and support groups.
- Seek Psychological - speak to a Psychologist
- Research into Eckhart Tolle is a German-born spiritual teacher and self-help author. His books include The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. His famous quote "You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are"
- You must feel to heal, feel your emotions fully, comfort yourself and parent your inner child with words of affirmation, "You are safe" "It's okay to feel this way" Also Bilateral arm tapping, Breathing
Overall all you can do this, as many people before you have! On the other side of the darkness is always light and so much potential for greatness! Keep your head up